Steven and Becicka families,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have many fond memories from the 10 years that I worked with Shirley at The Depot in Oxford. Our relationship started off "rocky" but that was because Shirley was a detail oriented, dedicated employee and I was a punk-a$$ know-it-all teenager. I eventually grew up and we became very good friends. I had a great deal of respect for Shirley and am sad for not taking care to keep in touch with her.

I pray that she is resting in the Lord's loving arms now and you all have comfort in that.

Once I learned of Shirley's move to Amana we kept in close contact and shared many memories both good and not so good and we were both able to laugh... sometimes. Even though I was her x daughter-in-law she made it clear she thought of me otherwise in a good way! Last call to Shirley was on mother's day, I feel fortunate as it was Shirley's brightest day much better than any previous call. RIP to my children's grandma Shirley ♥️

None of you would remember me, but Pat, Shirley and Bob were cousins. My brother Jerry and I were born in 1944 and 1945 so the 4 of us, (Bob & Shirley) were all very close in age, and we had great times together when we would visit our Homme grandparents or in our younger years when we visited our family homes and got together. Always enjoyed laughing with Shirley.

I remember very well the celebration for our grandparents "50" Wedding Anniversary. Not many places for all to sleep so Shirley and I got assigned to the back of my dad's station wagon. We talked and laughed half the night, such fun memories. Too bad we lived so far away from each other for many years. We did keep in touch but not very well.

I was so grateful Suzi sent me the obit and I sent it onto other family members.

Take care! Losing family is a very difficult time.

Jean Nybo

Shirley was a dear mother-in-law. She and I had a lot of good laughs all those many years ago and it was nice having her as a next door neighbor too. I remember the first time I met her, she was boiling chicken feet for the family for lunch--I was both horrified and in awe (I could go on and on about all the varieties of meat Jim and Shirley had in their freezer)! I also remember seeing Shirley easily drive a tractor--something I'd never seen a woman do before. I was impressed! Another favorite memory was watching Jim and Shirley laughing and dancing to the Beach Boys in the basement--they were pretty darn good! And although they divorced later, they did have some good times together.

Shirley grew up in town but handled the trials and isolation of being a farm wife better than most other city girls moving to the country could, including myself. She was a very hard worker and I learned so many things from her: how to properly mow a lawn, how to play bid euchre, interior decoration and maintenance of a home, what Memorial Day is really all about, the Becicka/Pospishil and Homme/Wise geneaology, taking care of and looking out for elderly family members (i.e., Ferne and Stella), and making tough, unpopular decisions to be happy. Some things that always brought Shirley joy were Marty Robbin's music,Tulip Time in Pella, visits with family, her pets: Thor, Tippy, Pee Wee, Coco, and countless others, and of course her grandchildren.

I will never forget her.

Steve and family, so sorry for the loss of your mother. Keep her memory alive and she will always be with you. Brenda Verry

I loved Shirley like the sister I never had. Our family get together, Holidays, Skype visits and hours of chatting on the internet were some of our best times together! You will be missed my dear sister-in-law. I hope you and Bob are enjoying family time again in Heaven!!

Love, Suzanne (Suzi) Homme

And of course your niece, Meggan

XOXOXO